When I was working on my degree in clinical psychology, I lived in a small apartment with paper thin walls in Vista, California.
The neighbors who lived on the west side of my apartment were a young couple in their twenties. To say that their relationship had problems is like saying if you fall into Niagara Falls you will get a little wet.
When they were mad at each other, there was...
Are you wondering what happened to those loving feelings? You are still spending time with your partner, still doing things together, still sexually active, but just don't feel the intensity of love and passion that you used to. What happened to it? Did something go wrong in your relationship? Do you have the wrong partner? Although those are often the conclusions that people have, they...
You are having problems with your marriage and nothing you have tried seems to work. What is your next step? Should you start looking through the phone book for a divorce lawyer? Do you work on getting your partner to go to marriage counseling with you? Do you have a session with a relationship coach? Do you just wait and hope that things will get better? With so many opinions and...
There are two times that people put the most effort into a relationship--at the beginning, and at the end. At the beginning, we want so much to spend time together that we will make time to do whatever it takes. At the end of a relationship, we spend a lot of effort just to keep ourselves together while our relationship is falling apart. Many people learn too late that the most important...
You don't need to have any kind of preparation whatsoever in order to find a partner. But, in order to find a great partner, you need to have even more preparation than you would to find a great job. The successes in our life don't happen by accident or without effort.
The more of the things that you do on this list, the better partner you will find.
DECIDE ON WHAT YOU WANT FIRST--When...
If your partner is distant, cold, and rejecting, how could working on the relationship by yourself possibly make a difference? In this real life example from a relationship coach, we can see one way it could.
Many people have either wounds from the past that continue to hurt or they have areas of their life that are screaming for attention. It could be a history of abuse, a need for...
Are you tired of starting new relationships, getting emotionally attached, getting hurt, and breaking up? Would you like to find a better way without resigning yourself to staying single?
Despite our best intentions and efforts, things sometimes just don't work out. People can fail once or twice due to any number of unforeseen factors. But, when we repeatedly have the same kind of...
Is it an overstatement to say that most people recognize that there are changes they need to make in their lives and their relationships? Why then, do so many people put off making those changes, sometimes indefinitely, while maintaining an existence that they find tedious or painful? Is it that people prefer pain or are lazy or dumb? It's none of these things, of course.
Each emotion...
If you are like many women who seem to experience the same problems with men from relationship to relationship, you are probably wondering if all men are the same. You have probably heard many times that "all men want the same thing." Some women even come to detest men because of their experiences. Many men think the same about women.
But, if all men really want the same thing, then how...
You love your spouse, but your relationship is not the way you want it to be. How can you tell your spouse without making things worse? Some people are so afraid of upsetting their spouse that they suffer for years in silence. Ironically, sometimes both partners suffer in silence over the same problem, only to find out years later when the silence is finally broken. The time of...
