Do you experience shame and guilt over being gay or homosexual? It\'s easy for me to say, \'Stop, there\'s nothing to be ashamed about!\" But it\'s a lot harder to put into practice. The reason for this is that the seeds for shame and guilt are usually sown over a period of many years, since we were very young. In the United States, shame and guilt over being homosexual have their roots in...
There are loads of reasons people give for staying in unhappy relationships. Here are a few of the most popular: I made a commitment, if I leave it will break my partners heart, I can\'t afford to leave, it will hurt my children, and, my favorite, if I leave how do I know I\'ll find something better. Do any of these excuses sound familiar to you? if so, then read on.
If you are unhappy in...
Why is it that some of us do not realize we are gay or lesbian until midlife? It seems like a pretty basic thing to know about yourself: are you attracted to men or women? End of story. Unfortunately is is not that simple. Some of us are attracted to both genders, but predominantly to one or the other. Some of us enjoy sex with both genders and that is confusing. But mostly, the confusion comes...
If you are a lesbian and you are just coming out, you will discover that dating is a whole new experience from what you may be used to with men. One of the differences is in reading the signs that a woman is interested in you. This is important because, unlike heterosexual dating, you or the other woman will be responsible for initiating the date. No more waiting for the guy to take the...
You are a woman. You are married to a man. You have just come to the realization you are a lesbian. What now? One of the biggest and earliest dilemmas women in your situation face (and there are a lot of women in your situation) is whether or not to tell their husbands. It would be nice if there were a simple yes or no answer to this question, but there is not.
Whether to tell or not depends...
Falling in love is wonderful, but it is really the easy part of any lesbian relationship. What takes work and commitment is keeping that relationship going even after the passion fades, which it most likely will over time. Most experts agree that passionate love has a life expectancy of 2 to 4 years. So compatibility and mutual respect become increasingly important as your partnership...
Do you know someone you think might be gay or lesbian? Do you think s/he would like to come out to you, but is afraid? Are there signs you can watch for to see if this might be true?
The answer is yes. Most gays and lesbians have some extent of difficulty coming out. The more important the relationship is to them, the harder the coming out process tends to be. The reason for that, of course,...
Some people have the urge to buy a sports car, others change jobs, but the ultimate midlife crisis has got to be discovering yourself to be a lesbian. While most midlife crises involve finding the moxie to do something you have longed dreamed about, this one is usually an act of desperation. You simply can't stand to live life as someone you are not any longer.
So, now that you have figured...
A while back I was very pleased with myself. I had come out to all my friends and relatives. I had even broached the final frontier and come out at work. I thought I was finally free of the closet! Or was I? As it turns out, I was in for a rude awakening. Coming out never ends. It is a process that you will have to go through time and time again. Each time you meet a new friend, each time you...
If you are gay or lesbian and are unhappy with your lot in life, you may be wondering if it is really possible to change your orientation from gay to straight. And live happily ever after. Well, the research overwhelmingly supports the American Psychiatric Association's position: the answer is no. You may be able to live as a straight person...anyone can play act...but you won't really be a...
